How to find your soul mate, destined by fate. How to find your soul mate? Karmic connection or unity of souls? Signs that you have met your soul mate

20.09.2021

The most obvious and conspicuous signs, compiled by a whole team of love and relationship experts.

Sometimes it is enough to mention the "second halves" in a decent society, so that someone, having heard this word, rolled his eyes picturesquely upwards. The very idea that for each of us there is that very unique person with whom you can instantly fall in love, and then live soul to soul, seems unrealistic to them.

But for many people, though perhaps not for all, there really is a person whom they know as themselves, with whom they are connected on the deepest level, and in whose company they finally feel truly happy. And if this person becomes their romantic partner ... it is impossible to imagine better.

So how do you know that the person you met on the path of life is really the same, one and only “soulmate”? Below you will find some of the most obvious and conspicuous signs, which have been compiled by a whole team of love and relationship experts.

1. You understand each other perfectly - or even without words at all.

Kindred souls are able to read each other like an open book. As clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Carmen Harra wrote in one of his articles: “They are connected at all levels of their existence. They can finish each other’s sentences, they can pick up the phones at the same time to call each other, or they can just feel bad without each other.”

Dr. Sue Johnson, clinical psychologist and author of The Feelings of Love, says your soul mate knows how to respond to your emotional cues. “They listen to your innermost thoughts, stay close to you when you need it most, touch your hand when you are a little unsure of yourself, beam with happiness and contentment when you feel good, and are also extremely caring and gentle, when you feel bad, she thinks.

2. All your senses are telling you that she is your soulmate.

As old as this world itself, the wisdom “you will understand when you find it” has never been so true when we try it on the question of “second halves”. “If you doubt and wonder if this is your “second half”, then most likely it is not so”, says wedding planner and author Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway. “Usually, when you find your true love, it is accompanied by some kind of sign from above, whether it be a voice in your head, a feeling that you have known this person all your life, or out of nowhere the knowledge that he is very important to you ".

3. The connection between you can almost be felt ...

...and when you touch each other, it's like a spark jumps between you - and not only when you're in bed. “You only have to take the hand of your soulmate, and your soul ascends to the seventh heaven with happiness, even if your relationship has lasted for many years,” Harra says this.

4. You feel comfortable in each other's company from the very first day you met.

From the very beginning, you understand that you can not be embarrassed by each other, and just be yourself without fear that you will be judged for this. “When you find your soul mate, you almost immediately understand how familiar and comfortable it is for you to be in her or his presence,” says Brockway. “A lot of people say that around such people it’s much easier for them to relax and allow themselves to be vulnerable.”

“Your soulmate is the person who, fearing nothing, bares his soul in front of you,” Johnson adds. "This is a person who is ready to risk everything, sharing with you his inner world, his emotions and his dreams."

5. Your relationship is far from being all sunny days and rainbow butterflies. Sometimes it is difficult for you with this person as with anyone else.

The relationship between you and your soulmate, no matter what strangers think, is not always cloudless and serene. “The fact that this person is your soulmate does not mean that his soul came to you wrapped in an ideal package - whether in terms of physical form or life circumstances - and even more so that fate guarantees you happiness without any conditions” ,- says writer Kaylen Rosenberg from the marriage agency "Architects of Love". “But the difference between this person and everyone else is that the difficulties that you have to go through together become the glue that tightly holds your relationship together, allowing them to go through all subsequent sorrows and hardships, and each of you to open up to complete."

Both we and our other halves help each other's personal growth. “Yes, at first it may seem to you that relationships with your soulmate are even more insidious and unpredictable than with ordinary people, and that your partner deliberately pisses you off, but this is only because some of the most important things in life come into your life with them. lessons you will encounter along the way,” adds Brockway.

6. You may not agree on the little things, but what really matters is that you are always on the same page.

“The fact that your partner is really your soulmate does not necessarily mean that he will share your aspirations and hobbies even in small things, but it means that your common goals and ambitions will certainly coincide”, Harra says. “Your opinions on all sorts of unimportant issues may differ, but much more often your virtues and even vices will coincide - after all, you look at the world with the same eyes for two.”

7. Your relationship brings both partners a sense of inner peace.

When you have entered into a personal relationship with the wrong person, it is almost always obvious - they seem extremely fragile to you, and you are afraid that one wrong word will make your partner cool off. But when you are with your significant other, everything is completely different.

“You feel confident - because you feel that your partner is with you for a long time”, says relationship expert Tracey Steinberg, author of Flirting for Fun and Finding a Soulmate. “No matter what happens to you, you will still be together - and you will go through it all together” and then adds: “Your inner voice is telling you that your relationship with this person is the best thing that could happen to you. You trust each other, you feel comfortable and confident in each other's company, and you are not afraid to discuss difficult topics on which you have ambiguous opinions.

8. You and your partner are separate individuals, but to the world you are still one.

“Soulmates know that they are two halves of one whole, and that no external influence or internal disagreement can break this connection.”

9. You may well have known each other for several years, but nevertheless you realize that you fell in love with each other, suddenly - and at the same time.

True love comes neither early nor late, but exactly when it is needed. “I happened to organize the weddings of a bunch of couples who met at school or college, met, then parted, and then went about their work, maybe they spent time with the same friends, but didn’t even really communicate,” writes in one article Brockway, after adding: “But then, one day, they magically come together, and their love flares up like wildfire.” So keep both your mind and your heart open so that when your significant other knocks on them, you are ready to open them.

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For each of us, there comes a period in life when we ask ourselves rhetorical questions:

Why do I live? What will my life be like? Who will take part in it? How happy will I be? And what is happiness? Where to look for it? And whether to search at all? Will my other half find me? And where will she find me? What will she be like? And will she? And if she does, will we be happy? And how long will we be happy? Will we die on the same day? Or maybe I'll be a lonely person? And what kind of people will surround me? Will they be evil? Or kind? Am I a good man? Exactly what kind of person am I? And am I human? Will I ever find the answers to these questions?

Answers come to each of us in due time. You can look for them yourself, through trial and error, you can study the experience of other people, explore ancient teachings and books. There are many options, and one of them is to find out what ideas about the purpose of life and happiness our ancestors had.

It turns out that our forefathers had one simple answer to all the questions listed above, the meaning of human life is to find their soul mate and, united with it, develop, achieving spiritual perfection. One can argue and disagree with this, one can argue that happiness and meaning are hidden in completely different things. Any of your opinions will be correct. Since the soul of each of us is at its own stage of development, and needs a versatile experience, but the goal of this experience, our long journey, is to become a creator in the highest sense of the word. After all, we are all sparks of the original divine consciousness.

This is how the Vedic teachings describe the desire of the soul to find its soul mate.

« The beginning of everything was and is the unity of two halves of one whole — God.
And the souls descended to the Holy Land, divided into two halves - women and men. (Remember the well-known symbol of yin and yang, masculine and feminine, which at the same time being a single whole, is nevertheless divided) And it was conceived by the Gods so that they could find each other according to the main spiritual qualities. In the heart of the man they left a part of the flame of the feelings of his woman, so that when they meet, his heart would burn with eternal love, he would warm her with kindness and love, and by that love she knows him. And in the heart of a woman the Gods left a part of the mind of a man. Then he will see that a woman's soul is full of wisdom, and by that wisdom a man will recognize his mate.

Our ancestors believed that each of us must have a soul mate. And this half is the only one, as it is a part of your own soul, once divided into male and female. Only by finding your true spiritual soulmate, you can find integrity and harmony. Reach the level of the Creator in your development.

You and I are so used to looking at the world in a dual way that we often see the struggle of opposites in everything: good and evil, black and white, night and day, summer and winter, man and woman…

Our ancestors perceived the world more holistically and harmoniously. Realizing at the same time that in nature day never fights night, black only complements white, and even evil and good are one and necessary for the full development of the human soul. Moreover, the relationship between a man and a woman has never been seen as a struggle of antagonisms.

If each of us has our own only half, how to feel it and distinguish it from someone else's?

The Slavs divided the relationship between a man and a woman into three types:

1. Karmic connection.

In such a union, we work out the mistakes of our past lives. Our soul learns and polishes.

A close karmic connection means that we met more than once in our past incarnations, were in close relationships and, perhaps, were to blame for something before the person or he before us. Perhaps we caused great misfortunes for him in the past and now we are paying for our cruel mistakes by being forced to serve this person, fulfill his whims, listen to claims. If we are placed by fate in such circumstances, then there is a reason for this.
The greater the remoteness of the karmic connection, the less we met and had energy contacts in the past, and also the less we will have in our present life.

2. Soul mates.

This is the family life of souls - comrades, classmates of the School of Life, who are companions on the path of life.
With a classmate partner, you have common ideas, a common understanding, and respect, you go through life together ... but you just constantly feel that this is a little different. In this pair, you limit your destiny, learn new qualities, but calmly, without tears. And yet there is no flame that, like the sun, illuminates the path for you and the people next to you. If you are in such a relationship, do not rush to break it. This means that your spiritual couple is not ready to accept you now, it still needs to go through its often cruel life (it got lost somewhere and makes its way to you through the thicket). If you still met her and she extended her hand to you - do not lose your chance. It means that she is ready, and your life paired with someone else's half will soon become unbearable for you. Don't wait until you can live with that family and your half is gone.

3. Spiritual (stellar) halves.

Because the Creator, having divided us into two parts — male and female, has left in each of us 10% of the qualities of our half. That distance means nothing to souls: even if you are very far apart, you are still connected by an invisible but very strong thread. There is a constant exchange of energy between the two true halves. They influence each other: it is impossible that one of them was seven spans in the forehead, and the other was stupid and stupid.

The first meeting with the spiritual half can never be forgotten, just like the first marriage night. You can live with your couple in any conditions and anywhere, together you will find a way out of any situation. All difficulties are surmountable if your soul mate is next to you. But you need to be prepared for the fact that not all spiritual halves can unite. In life, we meet our soul mate three times! If we refuse it three times, then it does not come to us anymore ...

A meeting with your soul mate occurs when a person suddenly internally realizes that he does not need anything (money, fame, career) without his spiritual half. The meeting occurs when the realization wins that in reality we live only for the sake of our soul mate. Why?
Sacred knowledge says that once we were all together as one. And the moment came when the souls (you can call them a family) descended into the manifested world from the womb of a common mother and began to divide into parts. Have you seen how a cell divides? Kindred souls first separated from the common “family”, and the last division is the division of the common soul into HE and SHE. And to connect again is a natural desire.
The path to each other can be very difficult. Never think that as soon as you meet your spiritual half, a romance will begin that will last until the end of days. After all, there is a lot of everything that needs to be unleashed, passed through, understood TOGETHER - this is a common work.
It happens like this: for one of the halves, life develops successfully (a good family, a house is a full bowl), and for the second, problems and disorder. Why is that? There should always be an impulse for development in a couple. Unfortunately, if a spiritual couple does not live together, then conditions are created (from the philistine point of view, unfavorable) for balance, so that the development of the couple goes forward. Remember about the constant energy exchange? And such halves often refuse each other, motivating this for various reasons, because they are not yet ready for connection.
What does “spiritual couples are ready” mean? This is when a woman loves and respects a man, as a manifestation of male energy, as God. And a man sees the Goddess in every woman! And then HIS woman will come to the man, and HER man will come to the woman. Because each partner with whom fate brings us together teaches us to accept our true soul mate, leads by the hand to her, the only one. And there is a second way to connect the spiritual halves - when the couple faces an important mission given by God and the Universe. And around such a star couple their kindred spirits are already gathering ...
What is she - your half?
A sure sign that you have found your soul mate is that you are doing similar things.! Often such couples, who were ready to meet each other, or business in related areas, have any interests and aspirations about the same thing. There is a common goal. And at the same time, your spiritual half is always your opposite! The inner world of your star half is different from yours. She loves the work that seems hard to you. She sees things in the world that you didn't even know existed. You know her thoughts, and she knows yours. There is no leader in these relationships—leadership is constantly shifting from one to the other. And most importantly - your weaknesses do not suffer, because your half in them is just the strongest. And work, and rest, and communication is the highest pleasure. It seems that it is impossible to talk too much, there is always a need for communication, being close, but this has nothing to do with addiction.
They do not look at their soul mate as an idol, on the contrary, they become kings next to her. The constant desire to direct their energy and strength somewhere moves the couple to new achievements. After all, only together you can achieve the highest states of spiritual outburst (if you work on it).
When you have found your soul mate, you do not need to adapt to it. Your soul mate needs you just the way you are.

If you live on this Earth, then your spiritual half is still alive. And she, just like you, is looking forward to meeting you. They say that if you die, then within 5 years your soul mate will also leave the Earth. Because wherever you are, you are one and will feel and attract each other.

Finding your soul mate is the dream of people of all ages. With the same frequency, this goal is pursued by both men and women. Some try their luck on the Internet, on various dating sites. Others are looking for a soul mate destined for the universe with the help of astrology. But the long-awaited soul mate is nowhere to be found. In this case, it's time to think and find the source of the problem. Perhaps it does not lie in the outside world, and failures in personal life act as a signal beacon calling for attention to the inner world.

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To get a result, you need to correctly set the task. Without accurate data about the person of your dreams, even if it is still imaginary, it is impossible to get a positive result. Usually already at this stage, the searchers start having problems. And the reason for the problems is one - a person does not know himself.

The search for a partner for living together should not turn into an obsession, otherwise it is nothing more than an escape from yourself. People who cannot stand their own society tend to fill their free time with communication with strangers. Left alone with themselves, they experience fear and even horror. Therefore, before thinking about finding a soul mate, you need to find out who the seeker himself is. You need to have a clear picture of your life. If a person is unhappy with himself, then together with someone he will only be more unhappy, and even risk ruining the life of another.

When an image of one's own personality has formed in the head, the question of the desired qualities of a partner will disappear by itself. A mature person knows what he loves and what he cannot stand. He understands how to become happy and what will make him deeply unhappy. For example, a sociable person who cares about frequent tactile and visual contact with his partner cannot stand an introvert immersed in the world of computer games next to him. Such a relationship will bring disappointment to both.

Refinement of coordinates

The next stage of the search is the specification of coordinates. An adult independent personality can easily get along with almost any person. The partner will be comfortable, but the seeker himself is unlikely. Only in fairy tales and movies does the love story of a “good girl and a bully” have a happy ending; in reality, people who have the same view of the world, common dreams and goals get along best.

Partners should be equal, then they understand each other perfectly. Therefore, the search criteria should be clarified, namely:

Age.
Income.
The level of education.
His goals and dreams.
The presence of children.
Does he want to have children.
Religious affiliation (for example, people who profess Orthodoxy will find it difficult to get along with Muslims).

When looking for a partner, it is important to identify those qualities, habits and character traits that annoy. It is necessary to consider only your own thoughts, without consulting friends or parents. Only in this way will it be possible to identify true needs.

It is necessary to imagine the created image next to you in the smallest details. Scroll through the possible development of events and everyday difficulties in your head. When looking for a partner to create a family, it is important to realize what role everyone is ready to play in family life. For example, an adherent of a traditional, patriarchal system will not get along with an emancipated woman. It is important to understand that a life position is an important part of a partner; it cannot be corrected without harming the human psyche. And that is psychological abuse.

Search methods

The desire to quickly feel the joy of love adventures often pushes people to rash, chaotic actions that lead to new disappointments. Of course, in order to find your person among the thousands of "wrong ones", you need to significantly expand your circle of contacts. But you can not rush into new acquaintances headlong. If the goal is a fleeting romance, lasting a maximum of several months, this is the right tactic. Building long-term relationships requires a serious approach.

To find happiness in your personal life, you need to check your imaginary ideal more often. This is not a waste of time, but a natural filter. Only partners united by one idea can live soul to soul for many years. Therefore, when choosing a place to meet, you should take into account your hobbies, otherwise there is a great risk of once again starting a stormy romance with your opposite. For example, active people should get acquainted in places of active recreation: camping trips, a gym or thematic groups on the Internet. Fans of creativity - at exhibitions, museums, master classes and various courses.

Partners should experience unity in all plans:

psychological compatibility.
Physiological attraction.
Social identity (an introvert will find it difficult to get along with an extrovert).

If compatibility is present at all three levels, this alliance is practically invulnerable.

If a closed person is engaged in a search, then a chaotic search gives a positive result. Natural modesty will not allow you to contact inappropriate people, and gaining new knowledge will improve communication skills, significantly expanding your social circle.

When looking for a partner by date of birth, it is important to consider a number of factors: if the person of interest has the same horoscope as the seeker, this is not a guarantee of a harmonious union. If the object of adoration is older or too young, significant communication difficulties may arise due to the difference in upbringing.

Why didn't it work?

Often, even despite all attempts, relationships still do not add up, and a person begins to fall into new extremes. He either withdraws into himself and denies the possibility of finding his other half, or, conversely, becomes socially activated and exhausts himself with attempts at self-improvement. There is nothing wrong with self-development if it is done with passion and interest. But in most cases, love disappointments make people doubt their own worth, and this becomes a motivator to acquire new skills. This is a destructive path that leads to unhappiness in love and dissatisfaction with life.

To prevent this from happening, it is important to understand that searching is normal. Even if it lasts a long time, it doesn't matter. The reason for the failed relationship is not in the seeker, but in the fact that there was a "wrong" person nearby.

You can often come across a situation: a luxurious woman over 35 years old is looking for a man over 40 years old. She is self-sufficient, has a great body, a lot of vitality, is happy with her life, plays the piano and learns Spanish. A grown man. She finds on a dating site a profile of a man she likes, who has similar interests. But there is one "but", he is looking for a girl under 25. The result is disappointment. But the point is not that something is wrong with the seeker, but that this particular man needs a girl under the age of 25. He is in dire need of naive enthusiastic looks and spontaneity, while the seeker is looking for a stable partner for life.

The presence of common interests is not an indicator of success in a couple, it is important to strive for similar goals, have the same view of the world and lifestyle. It is important to remember that thinking about unfinished love leads to depression. Therefore, it is very important to monitor your psychological state and fill your free time not with self-flagellation, but with your favorite activities and live life to the fullest.

According to statistical studies, people are most attracted to interlocutors with a similar or related profession. For example, make-up artists most often marry hairdressers or beauticians; doctors - with medical staff, and designers - with secretaries and editors. This experiment once again proves that in order to build a harmonious life filled with love, it is important first of all to take care of yourself: a career, hobbies, skills development, and become a happy person. Then the right partner will be found by itself.

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"Where is my significant other?" Everyone has tried to find out at least once in their life. How to meet your soul mate, and then not miss it? Are people really destined for each other or is it romantic nonsense? Where to start looking for true love? Read all the answers below!

Your life should become active, bright, filled with new acquaintances. Then there will be no problems with finding love, all that remains is to understand how to recognize your soul mate and not miss her. Source: Flickr (Mary_Maya_Riva)

Why do people want to meet their soul mate

It is interesting! There is one most curious legend. It says that once a man was a single-sex creature, and in his strength he could only be compared with the gods. But once a man angered the gods, and those, angry, cut him into two parts. Since then, people have been trying all their lives to find out how to find a soul mate and reunite with her.

The legend is very romantic. There are people who passionately believe in it, believing that each person has his personal half and she is only one. We tend to believe that this is not the case. Just imagine: what if you live in Russia, and half of yours, destined by fate, is an Australian citizen. What is the probability of meeting? Almost zero.

But the fact that a person is always attracted to similar types of representatives of the opposite sex is true. That is, you always have several “halves” at your disposal, from which you can choose a potential life partner.

Therefore, it is better to think not about how to meet your soul mate, but about how to discern a worthy person in your environment. And then together with him to build true love.

Where can I find that "missing" part?

Note! You never need to get hung up on finding someone. The most effective result is achieved when you forget about the true purpose of change in life. You always need to start changes with work on yourself: increasing self-esteem, correcting problems in communicating with the opposite sex. Then the second half will appear by itself.

"Where is my soulmate and how to find her?" - perhaps the most frequent question of the entire population of the planet. But the places where these fateful personalities are found are not marked on the map. So how do you find your soul mate?

First, don't search. Representatives of the opposite sex seem to feel that they are being hunted. It repels, you lose the aura of attraction, you cease to be an attractive person. Relax!
Second, have a romance with yourself. The attitude of people towards you is a reflection of your personal attitude towards yourself. Spend money on yourself, delight with delicious food, buy new clothes, go to beauty salons. This advice is more for women.
And, finally, be in society more often, make new acquaintances, look for new hobbies and hobbies.

Your life should become active, bright, filled with new acquaintances. Then there will be no problems with finding love, all that remains is to understand how to recognize your soul mate and not miss her.

Do not look for a partner too desperately - it is better to find and love yourself in this life. Then the second half will not have to wait long. Source: Flickr (Mary_Maya_Riva)

How do you know that a person is destined for you?

It is interesting! The exact answer to the question "where to find your soul mate" does not exist. It can happen anywhere and anytime. Do not look for special places, relax and wait for the good.

Sometimes it is difficult to understand that a new acquaintance is the same prince with whom you will live happily ever after, or that another girl is a truly worthy future mother of children. How to determine that a person nearby is destined by fate:

First, let's determine the strength of your emotions. The fact that there is passion between you, love, is understandable. But! Remember Romeo and Juliet and answer: could you go against society, stop communicating with your parents, friends, leave everything for your beloved / beloved? If the answer is yes, you are experiencing real feelings.
Then it is worth observing the behavior of the chosen one. Turn off emotions - look at his actions and actions. What does a partner do for you? Does a man give gifts, take care and protect you? Tasty feeds, is interested in business, does a woman support you?

If the feelings are mutual, you are equally drawn to each other, you are ready to take care and work on relationships, congratulations - you have found your soulmate!

Often people mistake fleeting feelings for love. In order not to be mistaken, listen to the recommendations of psychologists:

When starting a relationship, take your time with sex (the advice applies to men too). Try to make friends with the person first, get to know him better. Starting with intimacy at the beginning of a relationship is the same as eating dessert before the first course at dinner.
Sometimes turn off emotions and monitor the behavior of the chosen one. He must not only talk about feelings, but also confirm the recognition of behavior and actions.
It happens the other way around: a person does everything for you, and although you are not in love, you decide to try. You should not do this - if there is not at least minimal sympathy, over time, the chosen one will begin to terribly annoy, you will not be happy.

The theory of soulmates is just a beautiful legend. But you can significantly increase your chances of finding true love if you act in the right way. Do not look for a partner too desperately - it is better to find and love yourself in this life. Then the second half will not have to wait long.

Is there a soul mate?

This question may have been asked by each of us at some time. But still: do we really have “halves” and do we need them? Or just each of us quite self sufficient and unique, so there can be no "halves"? The answer, as often happens, lies somewhere in the middle.

There are several opinions, but what do you think? Write in the comments!

YES, THERE ARE HALVES! If you believe that one person can be a perfect match for you, like a puzzle, it is likely that someday you will meet him. However, the opposite also happens: we meet many different people in life, but we are waiting for someone special, someone unusual and most important, moving away from important relationships consciously.

NO, WE ARE ON OURSELVES. There is an opinion: the law of karma says that in this life incarnation we must complete a certain program and learn something, gain experience. The development of the soul is impossible without experience. We live for development, and other people help us to develop.

Someone has more luck: he or she meets very harmonious relationship and live life soul to soul. Probably, their lesson in terms of relationships has long been passed, and they receive an award - their own and close person, with whom a good relationship develops.

The second option is problematic relationship from which you have to take something important, your soul wants these relationships and finds them. Such a person may well be your "half" too, you just may perceive it in a completely different way.